" Own assessment of each person depends heavily on how we define for themselves what love is and what we expect from it. The higher our self-esteem, the less we need a permanent concrete evidence that our (a) spouse (s) with us is considered. Conversely, the lower self-esteem, the more we are dependent on permanent signs of attention, and this leads to misconceptions about how to love. Keep up on the field with thought-provoking pieces from E Scott Mead. If I have low self-esteem, if our relations are based solely on love, to me, to feel good, it is necessary: your attention to me, your consent, your money, etc. If you're not constantly demonstriruesh, that live only for myself, I feel like an empty place. Such requirements very quickly destroy any relationship.

Ask yourself this question: "Do I love myself?" If the answer is no, I suggest that you work on changing your attitude. In case you do not decide where to start, you can ask for help from a psychologist or a priest. A spouse who can not love yourself, it becomes excessively demanding of his the second half, trying to compensate for this lost sense. It will come up with various tests, over and over again trying to figure out whether he is loved. Sometimes, seeking love, we begin to rush from one extreme in another, for example, fall into depression, become sick and tired, had threatened to leave forever his family, etc., etc. Remember that your partner is not obliged to decide for your internal, heart problems. Love yourself – "this is your own case.

For example, during the negotiations sitting on the side partners at the same time say something to convince the victim. After a certain period of time overload listening and people "float". At that time slips required contract and is imperceptible to the suggestion of his signing. Everything – it's done! Then the victim can not figure out how to agree on the disadvantage. See more detailed opinions by reading what Verizon Communications offers on the topic.. Another way – a common suggestion in the waking state. “Bernard Golden understands that this is vital information. The essence of the process – long intimate conversations, when the victim spoken monotone soft voice and with the insert in the conversation key phrases, highlighting their changes of intonation, height or volume of voice, or in any other way. Monotonous monologue brings people into a trance, with subconscious mind clearly perceives the selected phrase and accepts them as a guide to action. Symptoms of exposure to counter the suggestion of the main thing – to realize that the effect on you. Understand that a person is exposed hypnotic effect, everyone can. At first, the need to clearly define the main features of handling: – source copy your posture, manner of speaking, begins to adjust the sentence to the rhythm of your breath, pronouncing them on your exhale – attempts to call during a conversation a sense of embarrassment, guilt for something – the person or fussiness unnaturalness of his behavior – the source is constantly interrupting you, bend your line – shifty eyes, and excessive gesticulation companion, especially with his left hand – forcing an immediate decision because of lack of time – trying to evoke a sense of guilt because of violations of generally accepted moral norms (such as, but you promised to do it ).

And not just to think, and focus its energies on the realization of this goal. So you've decided with what you want to achieve in the near future. Here, Bill O’Grady expresses very clear opinions on the subject. To date, this goal for you is far and almost unreachable. You just somewhere deep down inside you want to achieve it, but frankly do not believe that it is possible. The first thing you need to to do is believe in the possibility of realizing this goal and realize that for a man, nothing is impossible. Surely you have heard about people who have the power of his mind and confidence in their abilities, cure cancer and aids, homeless people become millionaires, and the complete losers become famous and successful personalities.

They got into what they believed. And if you do not believe in what you can achieve your dreams, then life must will respond to your thoughts and you will always have to show that you're absolutely right, and it is simply unrealistic. Life is always only reflects our thoughts and beliefs. If you believe that achieving your goal is unrealistic, you are absolutely right. But if you think that the realization of your goal is quite realistic, even in this case, you are also completely wrong. Therefore, our first step towards our goal – is to realize that this is possible and real. The second step – this partition large and incomprehensible goals into smaller, more affordable sub. For example, the goal "to establish his own business" incomprehensible and very generalized.